The Curves

Why do women have curves in the first place? My mom always says the women in our family have “child-bearing hips.” Is that really a thing?

An article done in 2013, by midwives, stated that childbearing hips’ don’t make the difference in childbirth.

“As midwives, we are used to allaying the concerns of petite women who are worried that their hips, or their bodies, are too small to give birth normally. They say things like, “my partner is so tall, look at the size of his head, what if my baby has his head?”

The midwives claim that the main factor in child bearing is being healthy. Hip size is less important.

Urban Dictionary takes a different approach. Child bearing hips are defined as,

“Hips that trigger a man’s innate sense of attraction to women who have the ability to bear children.”

Though humorous, we all know curves attract. Wendy Walsh, writer for stated that,

“Anthropologists have long known about the virtues of curves. Countless cross-cultural studies have shown that men prefer a low hip-to-waist ratio, no matter the body weight. In other words, small waists in relation to larger hips and breasts seem to be the ideal worldwide. Yes, 36-24-36 is a brick house in any language.”

“Anthropologists speculate that curvy women signal health, reproductive fitness and youth.”

Throughout history we see artists capturing this norm.

The Three Graces

Ancient goddesses were all curvy. Curvy was ideal. Artists desired perfection in sculptures. In the past, a women without curves was considered sickly and barren. In fact, a sign of wealth was shown by a big belly. Bigger the belly bigger the income. Over the past fifty years culture has shifted. Nowadays, being over weight is less idealistic. It is seen as lazy and gluttonous.

Surprisingly, in 2015 an artist told the world, “Don’t worry about your size.”

“All About that Bass” rapidly captured the attention of the media. Megan Trainor’s song, speaks to America’s over weight population.

“I know you think you’re fat
But I’m here to tell you…
Every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top”

I appreciate Megan’s acceptance of different body types. However, is promoting girls not to care about their weight a healthy practice?

This meme has been circulating Pinterest for months.

Kimberly Manderson, a fellow WordPress blogger, wrote about the inequalities of fat vs curvy. She states,

“In the last few years, it has become the so-called “polite” thing to call a fat person “curvy” so as to appear less harsh/make them feel sexier and more desired/appear to be accepting of anything other than a size 0.”

Check out her whole article, ‘Fat’ And ‘Curvy’ Are Not The Same.

Today, we understand curves are second to skinny. Unfortunately, being fat vs curvy is less clear. Overall, media tells us being skinny and wanted are the most important attributes a woman can possess.

Don’t fall for the lie. Embrace being healthy. Embrace the curves.



What is Your Pain Tolerance?


This past week pain has been my unwanted companion. I never thought I would be in the emergency room over spring break potentially preparing myself for surgery. Luckily, that didn’t have to happen. The doctor sent me away with medicine and I have been getting better everyday.

Unfortunately, I know one day I will have to visit the ER again. A pain free life does not exist. Right now humans around the world are breaking legs, catching diseases, and having heart attacks. However, one common pain all women share is labor pain. Curious, I decided to research how women describe labor pain.

Here’s a list of how some women described labor pain:

  • My pain was irritating but not unbearable.
  • I had excruciating pain.
  • My contractions felt like muscle spasms and weren’t very painful.
  • The pain was all-encompassing.
  • At first I didn’t know I was in labor and thought I needed to have a bowel movement.
  • By the time we got to the hospital, I was at 10 centimeters. It hurt, but it wasn’t that bad.
  • I felt like I was being run over by a train.
  • I begged my hubby to throw me out of the car on the way to the hospital, it hurt so bad.
  • It was close to painless, thanks to all the training and prep work I did during pregnancy.
  • I was induced and got my epidural early, so I only felt minor contractions. It was all fairly easy!
  • The epidural didn’t get rid of everything, like I had hoped. I felt the pressure of each contraction and the pain from the crowning.
  • I had period-like cramps until I got an epidural. Then I just waited.
  • Painful, until I got the epidural! It saved my life!
  • I still felt most of the pain, even after the epidural was in.

It is interesting to note the different levels of pain women described. Some women were hardly effected others were in excruciating pain. Pain tolerance differs according to each woman.

BuzzFeed did an experiment to test which gender has a higher pain tolerance.

Humorous as this video is, pain tolerance really differs from person to person. Personally, I hate needles. My boyfriend donates blood every few months. Everyone has to live with pain at some point. It is important to know that not everyone responds the same way.