The Curves

Why do women have curves in the first place? My mom always says the women in our family have “child-bearing hips.” Is that really a thing?

An article done in 2013, by midwives, stated that childbearing hips’ don’t make the difference in childbirth.

“As midwives, we are used to allaying the concerns of petite women who are worried that their hips, or their bodies, are too small to give birth normally. They say things like, “my partner is so tall, look at the size of his head, what if my baby has his head?”

The midwives claim that the main factor in child bearing is being healthy. Hip size is less important.

Urban Dictionary takes a different approach. Child bearing hips are defined as,

“Hips that trigger a man’s innate sense of attraction to women who have the ability to bear children.”

Though humorous, we all know curves attract. Wendy Walsh, writer for AskMen.com stated that,

“Anthropologists have long known about the virtues of curves. Countless cross-cultural studies have shown that men prefer a low hip-to-waist ratio, no matter the body weight. In other words, small waists in relation to larger hips and breasts seem to be the ideal worldwide. Yes, 36-24-36 is a brick house in any language.”

“Anthropologists speculate that curvy women signal health, reproductive fitness and youth.”

Throughout history we see artists capturing this norm.

The Three Graces

Ancient goddesses were all curvy. Curvy was ideal. Artists desired perfection in sculptures. In the past, a women without curves was considered sickly and barren. In fact, a sign of wealth was shown by a big belly. Bigger the belly bigger the income. Over the past fifty years culture has shifted. Nowadays, being over weight is less idealistic. It is seen as lazy and gluttonous.

Surprisingly, in 2015 an artist told the world, “Don’t worry about your size.”

“All About that Bass” rapidly captured the attention of the media. Megan Trainor’s song, speaks to America’s over weight population.

“I know you think you’re fat
But I’m here to tell you…
Every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top”

I appreciate Megan’s acceptance of different body types. However, is promoting girls not to care about their weight a healthy practice?

This meme has been circulating Pinterest for months.

Kimberly Manderson, a fellow WordPress blogger, wrote about the inequalities of fat vs curvy. She states,

“In the last few years, it has become the so-called “polite” thing to call a fat person “curvy” so as to appear less harsh/make them feel sexier and more desired/appear to be accepting of anything other than a size 0.”

Check out her whole article, ‘Fat’ And ‘Curvy’ Are Not The Same.

Today, we understand curves are second to skinny. Unfortunately, being fat vs curvy is less clear. Overall, media tells us being skinny and wanted are the most important attributes a woman can possess.

Don’t fall for the lie. Embrace being healthy. Embrace the curves.

 

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The Burden

Exploring the burdens of birth control on women.

These are some popular contraceptive options today.

contraception

This does not include: the female condom, the sponge, cervical cap, spermicide, and emergency contraceptive.

I find it amazing contraception promotes freedom while in most cases, except condoms and withdrawal, places the burden of contraception completely on women. We’ve been under this burden for centuries

Ancient Contraceptives

Through history we see Egyptian women using leaves, honey, and crocodile dung. Aristotle wrote that oil and frankincense was commonly used. Even Casanova encouraged his mistresses to use empty lemon rinds.

Throughout our lives we take drugs, shots, and put devices in us, all for the sake of an unwanted pregnancy! Please mess with are hormones more drug companies. But don’t even think about screwing with a man’s testosterone, far too dangerous.

Telegraph did a picture article about what men really think about contraception.  It was enlightening to see men taking notice of this inequality in the bedroom. Rebecca Reid, an author for Telegraph, expanded on this topic by writing, Men don’t think they ‘have a right’ to talk about birth control.

Rebecca Reid discovered two revelations from her research.

“The first was how uniform the uncertainties of hormonal contraceptives are. Every woman I asked about her difficulties with the Pill had a similar experience. Yet too many of us continue to ingest doses of synthetic hormones, irrespective – or perhaps ignorant (myself included) of the consequences.”

The second is

“Men are loath to discuss contraceptive issues. In my quest to secure a male testimony about contraception, I was met with straight ‘No’s’, and several blokes backing out of interviews after getting cold feet.”

Hormonal birth control can be liberating; yet, I believe it takes a toll on relationships. There is an imbalance. One person injects hormones while the other is squeamish about the topic. Both articles above show this inequality.

Personally, I never want to take hormones. I don’t want to be scared of complications or whether a blood clot is just over the horizon. For all those out there who agree with me check this out Natural Family PlanningFertility Awareness Method, and the Lady-Comp.