Why are people waiting?
Three ideas are,
- Fear of divorce
- Casual dating
- Waiting for “The One”
Trust is an issue these days. Many millennials are children of divorce. From a young age, children are taught that marriages don’t last. Today, we also don’t find dating for 5 years as unusual. The media portrays sex as totally acceptable outside of marriage. “Live how you want to live” the world tells us.
The the happily ever after mentality is often on our minds as well. Through Disney, little girls are told to wait for “The One.”
Is the delay in marriages a problem? In general, I would have to say yes.
Delaying marriage results in more sex before marriage. More partners. More diseases. More single moms. More broken families.
I understand living under the fear of divorce. However, that is why I take so much pride in my faith. People mess up. God forgives us. We are called to forgive just as Christ forgives. Call me a traditionalist, but I believe God designed family and marriage for purpose.
Mankind has the tendency to believe that he knows best. When looking at modern day marriage, we see countless failures. 50% of marriages end in divorce.
JP, a speaker at the Porch, a young adult ministry in Dallas, often says that when we take our vows we should honestly mean them.
“I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded(husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.”
However, if what we really mean is, “…for richer, for poorer, until death do us part, unless you sleep with my best friend.” We should say it! If that’s what we mean.
A wedding ceremony should encompass honestly.
I think society needs to take a deeper look into what marriage is becoming. Is it a simple union? Is it cohabitation? Or is it something more?
I believe it is a covenant. It is a spiritual union between two people and God. We should not take marriage as some mystical occurrence like little girls. Nor should we wait and live in a state of limbo in dating. Causal dating has no real definition. What are you really doing? You are only serving yourself and you’re selfish desires. There is no love in that.
However, there is love through self-sacrifice. Christ’s sacrifice on the cross and a husband’s and wife’s sacrifice to each other everyday.